I’ve been really happy with Cakes’ nursery school, but there is a little situation going on now, and I need your advice.
About a week ago, Cakes was bitten by another child (the two of them had been fighting over a toy). Her teacher talked to me about it; the skin wasn’t broken, and Cakes wasn’t upset. They said the other child was going through a tough transition (new baby I think), and I was sympathetic. They said they’d talk to his parents and we left it at that.
A couple of days ago, she was bitten again, by the same kid (they were fighting over a chair). I talked to the teachers, as well as the school administrator. I asked them what they’re doing about it and they said they have talked to the parents again. I asked for copies of the incident reports.
Now I’m not sure what to do. They say this is fairly common—is it? Has anyone else been on either end of this? I understand there isn’t a lot we can do. The teachers are great—they try to really watch the two kids, but they gravitate towards each other. Cakes plays well with the other kids, but she and this boy seem to clash.
I know the boys’ parents are in a tough situation too, and I’m sympathetic towards them. The more attention they give this behaviour, the more it’s rewarded.
So, wise internets, what can I do? I’m worried she’ll be bitten again, and worse next time. Should I talk to her, and tell her to stay away from this boy? (I doubt she’d listen anyway). Is there anything else the school can/should be doing?
I found out a friend of mine (also the mother a gorgeous girl Cakes’ age) is blogging. She’s a wonderful writer and she speaks her mind. I’ve been raving about the mommy blogging community, so prove me right and go on over and say hello (another Toronto blogger, yay!)