metro mama

Tuesday, February 06, 2007


My daughter amazes me. How can a 20-month-old be such a sensitive little soul?

We went to see my family yesterday, bearing a home-cooked meal and moral support. But what was infinitely more beneficial was our effusive, charming, hilarious little girl. She (who rarely embraces anyone) gave her grandmother and great-grandmother perfectly timed hugs; she said “grandpa”. She was a ray of light.

Grandpa died last night. It sounds cold, but I’m glad it happened more quickly than we expected. Now we can spend our energy doing something positive--remembering him for all that he was: devoted husband, father, friend, veteran, loyal Angels fan, grandfather, and great-grandfather.

It must be quite something to know your great-grandchildren, even if only for a couple of years--I'm glad he did.



Blogger Gabriella said...

I'm so sorry about your grandfather's passing. I'm glad you have such good memories of him and that he got to see your daughter.

1:49 PM  
Blogger nomotherearth said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm glad that you could find the sunshine in the clouds.

2:12 PM  
Blogger Mouse said...

I'm sorry for your loss, but also understand your position, as we went through a lingering death recently.

It's amazing how attuned the little ones can be in this situation.

2:33 PM  
Blogger Mrs. Chicky said...

I'm so sorry to hear about your grandfather. But I learned when mine died a few months ago that a young toddler is the perfect distraction during hard times. Especially a cute one that gives hugs.

3:24 PM  
Blogger MotherBumper said...

I'm sorry to read about your Grandpa's passing and I too understand how you feel. It's wonderful that he got to know Cakes because she is an amazing person.

5:38 PM  
Blogger Lisa b said...

How amazing that you were able to visit with cakes.
I am so sorry for the loss but so happy for you that you had such a nice visit.

8:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Amazing that they know just what you need.
Thinking of you.

9:50 PM  
Blogger Village Mama said...

Wow - I don't know what to say other than I'm truly sorry for your loss. If there's anything I can do, you know where to find me.
Big hugs and warm thoughts!

10:06 PM  
Anonymous jen said...

that truly is a blessing. and at the same time, am sorry for your loss.

be well.

10:35 PM  
Blogger NotSoSage said...

my condolences. it must have been wonderful for him to know such a sweet little thing like Cakes, even for a little while.

10:55 PM  
Blogger crazymumma said...

oh honey. I am so sorry. I am not surprised that Cakes rose to the occaision, she is her Mother's daughter. so sorry. Love and condolences to your family.

11:39 PM  
Blogger creative-type dad said...

Very sorry for your loss.

I dream about living to see my great-grandkids.

1:10 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Please accept my condolences on your grandfather's passing.

I'm glad you two were able to be there one more time, and that he got to hear Cakes call him by name.

And fwiw, it doesn't sound cold that you are OK with it happening quickly. If he was suffering, it is more humane and compassionate to want to end that suffering than to allow him to linger.

Good luck with everything.

6:50 AM  
Blogger something blue said...

Your grandfather sounds like a remarkable man that was truly loved by his family. It is wonderful that he had so many loved ones near him at the end of his journey.

My thoughts are with you and your family.

8:23 AM  
Blogger mamatulip said...

It must be quite something to know your great-grandchildren, even if only for a couple of years--I'm glad he did.

This is a beautiful way to look at life, and death.

My condolonces, MM. Your family is in my thoughts.

8:37 AM  
Blogger Angela said...

It is truly special and wonderful that Cakes was able to know her great-grandfather. My husband's grandmothers both got to know our children, they died, within 2 years of one another, but my children have wonderful memories of them.

I am so sorry for your loss and it is not cold to be relieved that he passed sooner than expected. It was the same when my husband's maternal grandmother passed away, it brought peace and closure to everyone. Sending good thoughts to you and your family.

11:24 AM  
Blogger kittenpie said...

Oh, Metro, I'm sorry to hear. I understand your sentiment, though - it seems cruel for such a thing to be dragged out, forcing the person to live through indignities and the family to remeber him that way. How lovely that Cakes stepped up - I'm always amazed at how they can hit just the right note sometimes.

1:46 PM  
Blogger scarbie doll said...

Sorry for your loss -- it's a beautiful image nonetheless.

3:09 PM  
Blogger Amanda said...

I am so sorry for your loss :(

8:53 PM  
Blogger Denguy said...

C'mon, why is everyone making me cry tonight?

A most excellent post. I read it twice.

9:15 PM  
Blogger Mary-LUE said...

Please add my condolences to everyone else's. Colin and Marley never knew my grandfather who I adored and Marley never knew my grandmother. Even though Colin doesn't remember her now, I still know that they did share some hugs and kisses before she died.

12:57 AM  
Blogger Her Bad Mother said...

So, so sorry Julie. But you expressed beautifully what a blessing it is/was that Cakes had him, for a time.

8:53 PM  
Blogger SpeakEasy said...

So sorry to hear about your loss, but it sounds like a bond was created between your daughter and her great grandfather.

Those are memories that you and your family will be able to use going forward remembering what you described as being a wonderful man.

Keep well.

10:15 AM  

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