Some of Cakes’ behaviour is a growing cause for concern. I used to be able to go to our drop-in and
At first I thought Cakes was just going through another asshole phase, but this has been going on for some time now. I spoke to one of the workers at my drop-in and she thinks the problem is that she wants to play with the other children and doesn’t know how to ask. This makes sense to me—she is very outgoing (like I am) but she doesn’t have many (recognizable) words yet (that’s another post). So, she does the thing she knows will get attention, be it positive or negative. What I need to do is watch her more closely, recognize when it’s about to happen and try to avoid the behaviour by giving her words:
“Oh, you want to help Johnny play with his train?”
“Hi Johnny, I’m Jane. Wanna play?”
Needless to say, there will be far less coffee drinking and chatting for me for the next little while.
Anyone else going through/gone through this?
My neighbour and I are finding the girls a little challenging right now and were wondering if things will get easier or harder. What do you think wise mothers of older children? What age was the hardest for you?