metro mama

Tuesday, April 03, 2007

Parenting Styles

McHotty is awesome with Cakes, but he is a little more easygoing than I am.

Case in point—he and Cakes returned from the grocery store today and we had the following conversation:

“How’d you make out, was she good?” I ask.

“Yeah, she was great!” McHotty answers.

“How the hell do you get her to sit still the whole time!” I respond, enviously.

“She doesn’t. She stands in the cart.”


“And she eats the grapes the whole time,” McHotty adds (not noticing my ire).

“Whole grapes? Unwashed?” I ask, incredulously.

“Um. Yeah,” says McHotty, sheepishly.



Blogger cinnamon gurl said...

This is the second time in a week I've been quite convinced that another blogger is married to my husband too.

11:34 AM  
Blogger NotSoSage said...

Ah, yes.

One of the most difficult tasks of parenting is negotiating how you parent.

11:43 AM  
Blogger Kyla said...

*lol* Ah, men.

"If it keeps them quiet, it must be good." <-- The motto of fatherhood.

11:46 AM  
Anonymous Redneck Mommy said...

He likes to live life on the edge.


12:26 PM  
Blogger Ms. Porter said...

Sounds like something my husband would do.

1:18 PM  
Blogger SciFi Dad said...

What? I don't see the problem here... she had fun, he had fun, and she ate a healthy snack. It's not like he gave her pixie stix and let her wash it down with Jack Daniel's! (mmm... JD...)

2:39 PM  
Blogger kgirl said...

our first stop at the grocery store is always, ALWAYS the muffins. Bee knows that in order to eat the muffin she must sit in the seat. Then I strap her in tight and off we go.
Chris lets her run wild and take whatever she wants off the shelves. (he puts it back)

3:05 PM  
Blogger Lisa b said...

I like to review the Oprah shows with my husband that feature the father leaving the child in the car, woods etc.
He had once suggested that he might be equally as good at keeping our daughter alive as I am.
I beg to differ.

Whole Grapes? Unwashed? Jeez McHotty.

3:31 PM  
Blogger bubandpie said...

Hubby and I are the opposite: he's the one who always thinks we need to be raising the bar. Most recently, he decided that Bub is old enough to eat his cereal consistently with a spoon, rather than dipping his fingertips in from time to time to grab a Shreddie. That means we now celebrate the beginning of every day with a pleasant ritual of watching him like a hawk, sternly reproving any move to use his fingers, and taking the bowl away - to screams of protest - when he doesn't comply. Such fun! Why exactly did we pick this particular battle again?

3:42 PM  
Blogger kittenpie said...

Standing?! Doesn't he love your child?! No seriously, it's true, we forget things aren't as dire as they seem all the time, don't we?

3:58 PM  
Blogger nomotherearth said...

Sadly, I would be too happy that he was eating any kind of fruit or vegetable to be angry. Sigh. The Boy has a diet of crackers, cheese and pasta.

4:08 PM  
Blogger Life As I Know It said...

Oh, I'm quite sure I've had that same conversation with my husband...

4:13 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

I sometimes wonder how men keep themselves out of harms way, let alone their own children. Do they think?

Sheesh, men!?

4:25 PM  
Blogger metro mama said...

It's funny, he's stricter in other ways. For instance, he won't give her the soother during the day. I give in the moment she gets really whiney (I can't stand the whining).

4:30 PM  
Blogger mamatulip said...


I would have asked the same questions, soul sistah.

6:42 PM  
Blogger Denguy said...

Ooo, hey, let's bash those silly husbands!

My husband-type-person wouldn't let the kids eat unwashed grapes, but she would let them do just about anything else to keep them quiet for that one trip to the grocery store she takes them on each quarter.

Me, I have wa-a-a-ay too much experience for such silly tricks.

7:04 PM  
Blogger Lisa said...

That is so funny. He sounds like my hubby.

8:33 PM  
Anonymous s@m said...

*sigh* Men. My husband does the exact same thing. Grapes and all. LOL

8:50 PM  
Blogger jen said...

when did J take Cakes grocery shopping?

kidding. what's wrong w/ unwashed grapes?


9:05 PM  
Blogger Emily Snipes said...

Too funny! My husband is really good with our son too. Better than me at most times. Extremely patient and consistent. But I'm the one who is "laxed" and he's the one who's "strict". I'd totally be the parent letting him eat grapes in the cart:)

9:15 PM  
Blogger crazymumma said...

But if they were organic grapes? And she had a pillow gaffer taped to her head?

Whatever works I say......

(I would have loved to have been there for that exchange....loved it.)

9:42 PM  
Blogger something blue said...

Next time, McHotty I suggest going for a bag of prewashed baby carrots to open while shopping. Our girls also beg for croissants.

Plus I've come to believe that toddlers become more whiney and demanding around their mothers. I don't have a theory worked out yet but it has to be this way for other people too right?

12:07 AM  
Blogger Beck said...

My husband lets the older two kids stand on the outside end of the card, clinging to the basket while he speeds around the store. It's a lot of fun, even if I have to pretend to dissaprove.

9:20 AM  
Blogger ewe are here said...

heh heh
My husband, too, lets MF stand in the cart... ON a 'screaming' expedition, however, it was I who instructed him to steer him over to the bakery session, find a pack of muffins, and pop it open and then into the screaming wonder's mouth.

The things you have to do to survive a big trip to the supermarket sometimes...;-)

9:45 AM  
Blogger Mad Hatter said...

My husband is the candy ass in our relationship on so many fronts but, I'm afraid that I have a lot of shameful indulgences that he would never stoop to. Like eating bread from the bag in the grocery store before we've paid for it.

9:47 PM  
Blogger Bon said...

i think i saw your husband with Cakes at the grocery store just today...

oh wait. no. that was my partner, who thought the eleven month old might have fun standing in the cart.

once i peeled myself off the ceiling, we all ate grapes. i licked the baby's first, so they were...erm...clean.

8:19 AM  
Anonymous Nancy said...

Heh. Yes, it can be tricky when J and I have differences of opinion on certain things.

9:32 AM  
Blogger petite gourmand said...

that's funny
hey at least cakes likes grapes (washed or not)
lulu won't even touch them.

10:41 AM  
Anonymous Big Papa said...

Tuff crowd!, how do you all feel about running with scissors?

5:49 PM  
Blogger Oh, The Joys said...

Yeesh! Better not to ask, eh?!

2:21 PM  

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