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Thursday, October 18, 2007

Neglect

Busy with mothering and studying for the last couple years, I’ve let a lot of stuff go. I’m trying to get on top of it all, but it’s not easy.

My finances were terribly disorganized. McHotty was very irritated with me about that. I had three different RRSP accounts (performing poorly), and couldn’t remember the last time I’d actually read a bank statement. But when he sorted and filed all my documents and made me an appointment at the bank, and even went so far as to buy me coffee and walk with me to the appointment, I had no choice but to sort it all out.

I’m still way behind on personal chores. I haven’t had a haircut in three months, and nothing’s been professionally waxed, polished or plucked since Cakes’ birth. And no, I still haven’t made it to the dentist. Honestly, I really am afraid to go. Plus it’s going to be pretty fucking embarrassing telling them how long it’s been now. I could lie, but they can probably tell.

But I was really sobered when I went for an eye exam this week, my first in three years (yes, shame, SHAME on me). My eyes have been sore and I chalked it up to all the reading and time in front of the computer screen. Plus, my glasses are broken and I’ve been wearing my contacts for about sixteen hours a day (yes, stupid, I know). The eye doc was not happy with what she saw. I have a condition (I can’t even pronounce it let alone spell it) where the cornea isn’t getting enough oxygen. Whatever it’s called, it’s not good and I’m supposed to give contact lenses a break at least for a month. So I splurged on these:


Scholarly looking, no?


But seriously, I’m sure I’m not the only mama too busy getting the kiddies to various appointments to look after herself. Don’t let it get out of hand. At the very least, get your eyes checked and your breasts examined, my friends. Even better—get yourself a pedicure while you’re at it.

Anyone else suffering from neglect?

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22 Comments:

Blogger b*babbler said...

I love the glasses!

And don't feel bad. Everything around here gets neglected, from the cat hair puffs floating up and down the stairs, to the piles of receipts I'm supposed to organize and enter into our budget, to the hair appointments that I simply haven't made it to. (I've had a $100 gift certificate to a Civello spa hanging around since Valentine's Day. The thought of private time alone at a pretty-smelling Aveda spa that I'm missing makes me cry just a little.)

I did, though, manage to get my eyes checked, and sadly get myself to the dentist (10 years! How bad is that?). But time for me? Nope, just doesn't happen.

11:02 PM  
Blogger Christina. B said...

i am suffering from the exact same thing, an you actually just reminded me of how many appt.s i actually have to make

11:14 PM  
Blogger Lisa b said...

you do look scholarly those are perfect for school!
I was told you can't get your eyes checked while you are pregnant or breastfeeding so its not like you just let it slide for three years.
I got a bunch of basic maintenace done before the baby got discharged knowing how hard it would be once she got home but I am starting to get a little rough and I've got a teeth cleaning on my list.

11:45 PM  
Blogger Kyla said...

Awww, its so good to see you! Love the glasses.

Want to hear neglect? I haven't been to my postpartum OB checkup from KayTar. She's gonna be THREE soon. And let's not talk about the dentist. I need to get off my arse and do something about it.

12:18 AM  
Blogger jen said...

those glasses make your boobs look HUGE! nice!

seriously, i am in total neglect stage. it'll pass.

12:19 AM  
Blogger cinnamon gurl said...

Brilliant glasses! It's been a year since I got a haircut but I scheduled one for this saturday. I had a pedicure a few months ago and I've been keeping up with my dental appointments (only because my gums are not in great shape and I'm scared to let it go AND they keep calling me).

BUT we don't have a will or RRSPs or life insurance. That's the form our neglect takes... I worry about the life insurance and will thing quite frequently, I'm just not sure of next steps...

I think I might have had that eye thing too a long time ago. Now I just wear glasses, but you can get such awesome glasses now, it's fun.

1:06 AM  
Anonymous Naomi (Urban Mummy) said...

AH yes, the perpetual "I'll do that tomorrow / later / never". I've got a few of my own!

Nice glasses, though!

7:21 AM  
Blogger Beck said...

Very cute glasses!
And I have a Certain Appointment that I've been putting off for a couple of years now. Thanks for the kick in the butt...

7:54 AM  
Blogger motherbumper said...

DUDE - I didn't even know you wore glasses or contacts! Holy heck. Money? oh the stories I could tell of my silliness in that department and eyes & dentist? Eight and three years respectively... they should start a group for folks like us... call it MBT or somethin'

8:25 AM  
Blogger kgirl said...

ooh, love the glasses! i am the queen of avoidance. and when i avoid, it usually costs me money. like waiting so long to pay a ticket that my license gets suspended. or waiting so long to get papers notarized that i then must send them overnight fedex to make it before the 'deadline.'

oh, and i haven't been to the eye doctor in about 15 years.

8:31 AM  
Blogger bubandpie said...

New glasses are a very good thing! (But shockingly expensive, I found - maybe because the only time I get a chance to go to the optometrist is during my summer months of unemployment - the perfect storm of no money coming in and lots of money going out.)

9:19 AM  
Blogger nomotherearth said...

Love the glasses!

I'm trying to fit in all the maintenance that I've avoided. I just got my hair cut after 7 months! I'm hoping to have a spa day before the baby arrives - I get most embarrassed when I feel like I'm under close scrutiny. Like in a labour ward..

9:48 AM  
Blogger crazymumma said...

I only really started doing anything for myself this year when both the girls are in school. Mothers always suffer from self neglect.

You look sexy in those glasses if I do say so myself. But how could you not. Do you have those jeans on that I like? Completes the picture for me a bit. ;)

Oh. And can Mchotty come and take care of MY paperwork for me?

10:11 AM  
Blogger kittenpie said...

Good god, you totally read my mind. I've been thinking I have to get back to my aethetician for some maintenance, but when would that happen? I used to do it as part of my days-off battery of appointments and errands, but just haven't been thinking ahead to book a time. Dentist next week, though, and haircut the week after, so maybe I should try for next week, and get it all in shape at once!

and? Looove the glasses on you. So cute. So bookish.

4:01 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Darling,

Love the glasses, but you still have to call TD, so your Waterhouse account will appear on EasyWeb, so I can transfer the funds into it, to top up your RRSP.

Thanks
BP

5:32 PM  
Blogger em v said...

Those are nice specs!

The little maintenance stuff does add up. I got a pedicure and a haircut last week. However, my finances have lately been just plain stupid (have simply forgotten to pay Mastercard for two months, my student loan auto withdrawl accidentally NSF'd last month). Don't even ask me about the bikini line. Don't ask me about the huge pile of stuff on top of my dresser either, or why there is an additional Queen mattress leaning against the wall in the bedroom. Did I mention that we had our old fridge in our dining room for 8 months post kitchen reno? Aaaaa...

I do hope your eyes get better soon.

10:40 PM  
Blogger Christina said...

With two kids now, taking care of myself has fallen to the bottom of the list. Haven't been to the dentist in 3 years, need an eye exam, need to visit the dermatologist to have some moles looked at, etc. Plus I haven't had a haircut or wax since right before BlogHer. And our finances aren't as neatly organized and tracked as they were. Someday I'll catch up.

But I love the glasses. They do give you a very scholarly look!

9:20 AM  
Blogger highwaisted said...

aw! i demand more pics of you on this blog. the glasses look hot. you should have a bought a mini skirt and knee socks to go with them.

12:05 AM  
Blogger FENICLE said...

WHAT!?!?! You aren't supposed to leave your contacts in 24/7??

Oh, shit.

12:14 AM  
Blogger aimee / greeblemonkey said...

Awesome specs! I just got news ones too, must be something in the air.

Oh, and Bryan and I just discovered a mistake in our checkbook from 2004. DOH. A big one. Luckily we had several other opposite ones that have been making up for it since then.

1:06 AM  
Blogger something blue said...

You look super hot! The glasses rock.

1:28 PM  
Blogger Mommahbear. said...

So you're bad at bookkeeping! Pshaww.. You're HOT! Love the glasses! And, that condition you're talking about.. not something to mess with.. you can lose your vision. Be careful!

12:54 AM  

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